How Do Your Routines Get Done When Something More Fun Pops Up?
Heather sent me these questions, and I am posting it for everyone because I think everyone can benefit. I will answer, with my thoughts, but I would also love others to comment and add their own thoughts.
I love your site and just came across it while trying to get inspired to get "back on track" with my cleaning and organizing routines.
I have a general question too. I have a daily and weekly schedule that I fine-tuned after trying the Flylady technique for a while. I have adjusted those routines to work for my schedule and try to keep up with them. However, I'm finding a hard time fitting them in. Do you schedule the tasks into your day?
I am so busy with kids, work, family obligations, friends, etc (all wonderful stuff) that I run out of time for me stuff (house/exercise). Let's say a party pops up when you should be doing your Wednesday night routine. What do you do? Blow off the house stuff ... again, or say no to the fun? I think I'm too spontaneous for a clean house. ;)
I'd love your insight. I think my problem is that I don't keep dates with myself and consider other's needs first.
While weekly routines, with daily parts, are the core of keeping your home in good order things pop up all the time, just as Heather mentions. In fact, I doubt you will ever have a week that will go exactly according to your generic weekly house cleaning schedule
Does that mean you should just give up? No. It just means that you need to be flexible with your routine. I know at first that sounds like an oxymoron -- a flexible routine. But in reality, once you have it established, your routine actually gives you more flexibility. You have broken down the necessary housework into more manageable, smaller parts, so if you need to move small parts a round a bit it isn't as hard as moving the whole big task of housekeeping around.
Go ahead and go to the party on Wednesday, but if you know its coming on Tuesday do just a bit of your Wednesday tasks on Tuesday night, and the rest bunched with your
normal Thursday tasks, or whatever else work for you. You will figure out what works best for you -- and sometimes that means saying no to fun. But honestly, not very often is that necessary if you have your routines in place AND everyone in your household is contributing at an appropriate level. You may need to work on getting others involved in more chores, but then if you do everyone should have the chance for fun.
Heather also asks:
I also have noticed that I'm living with a husband (not to mention 2 kids) who don't put things away after they use them, ever. I'd be happy to hear how you deal with that. Do you try to motivate or do you just pick stuff up for them. I do try to leave the things there until he feels inspired, but it takes a very long time. I don't like a cluttered home, so I generally pick it up. Thanks for your time and inspiration!
It won't happen overnight by any means, and at first it takes a lot more work than just doing it yourself, but you can train your kids to pick up after themselves if you work on them with routines.
One great way for kids to learn to pick up is to have certain times of the day that you expect clean up time, such as after breakfast, lunch, and dinner, for example. If they pick up that frequently it won't take as long as marathon sessions every couple of days, and it will quickly become a habit.
Husbands are a completely different animal, because you are partners, and are not their Mom (nor do you want to be). That is a much more individual case that takes communication, trust and respect between spouses to work out, with all parties giving and receiving, and compromising because of the love they have for one another. It is more complicated, I believe, than I can respond in this short space.
Does anyone have any other thoughts, ideas, comments? We would all love to hear them in the comments! Photo by katiebate
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